What do Chinese people look for in a boyfriend/girlfriend & why?
Dating in China reflects a business rather than social process due to China’s recent emphasis on economic liberalization & growth. Slow social change means typically social processes have adopted business processes -- the search for a partner is limited to objective factors that business processes can evaluate (i.e. height, weight, salary, degree).
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Today, 11/11 is Single’s Day in China! So to all you lovely, lucky, unhitched singles out there: live it up & enjoy the freedom of not being attached to a significant other!!
What started as a joke on a college campus has spread throughout the country and even launched the largest online shopping event ever. As I was walking back from dinner, I also heard two students discussing the signs put up around campus by students of different departments, bragging that the bachelors of their department were the hottest of the university.
And because I am a master of tact, I decided to choose today of all days to start interviewing the students of Tsinghua University. Some interview moments will be posted in the upcoming days.
HAPPY SINGLE’S DAY EVERYONE!! :D
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Work that purse.
That pink bow. I can’t.
Another tidbit of information from Chinese Tinder:
After only a few messages, this guy asks me for my number.
Me: so quickly?
Guy: I just want to know more about you. I’m from Dalian, born in 1987, 182cm tall.
I guess height is a big enough consideration here that it must be announced when first meeting someone. As opposed to sharing, I don’t know, your interests or something.
The standard China couple:
-hugging in a subway corner
-lovingly staring into each others eyes
-the guy holding her oversized purse
(Sorry the image quality isn’t that good. I was quite far away.)
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Honestly, the amount of guys I see doing this is vaguely amusing. Trendsetters, one and all.
First of all, I’m FINALLY done with my first draft of the survey, after months of working and editing and reediting. The game plan now is to interview a small group of people (I don’t care if they’re single, dating, cheating, gay, straight, etc. Just give me people to talk to), go back and tweak my survey if necessary, and then unleash it onto the Tsinghua student body. Followed by Peking University and other surrounding schools if I can manage that.
But the topic of today: TINDER. For those of you that don’t know, Tinder is an app that uses GPS to locate people in the area that you could potentially meet (aka hook up with). Your account consists of a few pictures and a brief description. Then you swipe through pictures of strangers, either liking or dismissing them, and if one likes you back, it’s a match and the app allows you to message them. It’s pretty popular throughout the US, so I decided to get the app and see if it had made its way to China yet.
Unfortunately not…. There are quite a few expats, foreign exchange students, etc., but not enough actual Chinese men for my liking. Luckily for me, a friend stopped by right as I was fooling around with it and said "There’s a Chinese version of Tinder. It’s called Momo (陌陌, as in stranger)." Back to the app store!
The thing with Momo is, it’s much more complicated than Tinder. Setting up my profile required a picture (of course) and my birthday, which automatically displayed my Zodiac sign, my location, career, company, school, hobbies, and places I go to often (this is sorta creepy). You can also filter out search results by gender, zodiac, distance, career, and social status (身份). These are all optional, but it’s interesting that in the US the app exists for people to make snap decisions based solely on appearance, whereas here there is so much room for consideration. Even with something as simple as meeting up for a blind date (which is what both apps essentially do), Chinese require many options to pick, choose, and sort through.
So I go and put in a couple things, the only really personal information I give out is where I go to school. And then my phone blows up with notifications. Apparently, you don’t need to have a match in order to message someone. It’s just a message free for all. In the past day and a half, I’ve received 70+ messages.
That first message there is someone complimenting my figure…
I’ve gotten messages ranging from average/eh (just a “hi” or a smiley face) to downright creepy (one guy straight up asked me to pick a hotel).
Lots of people are calling me 美女 (pretty girl), 妹妹 (little sister, kind of a form of endearment in China), commenting on the fact that I’ve listed both Hopkins and Tsinghua as my school (Are you an exchange student in the US? China? Foreign student? Did you study in the US? Or only aspire to study there? High school at a US boarding school perhaps? Where are you actually from??) Thus far, I’ve only spoken to a very select few. Despite my general wariness, some of the people are pretty nice, some really persistent, but as far as my research is concerned, this is amazing. It’s a real window into how Chinese people flirt, converse with someone they’re interested in, present themselves to the opposite sex based on what they believe is desirable. Definitely a breeding ground for potential stories and information. Stay tuned!
I asked this guy why he was still awake. He responds “Seeing a goddess is here, wishing to be close/intimate with her, fervently hope that the goddess will grant my wish.” O_O He then asked how it was that I need to be on this app to find a guy.
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Saw my first "soccer field couple"! They saw on the corner of the field and played guitar together for a while — it sounded really nice and pretty. I debated for a while about interrupting and interviewing them, but decided against it and let them have this moment. It was such a nice, peaceful, sunny afternoon. Reminds me of those days where my boyfriend and I duet on the piano.
Also there was that really cute baby.
… to see what I’m dealing with here:
China’s population: 1.351 billion (2012)
Urban population: 712 million (2012)
Beijing population: 20.18 million (2011)
Tsinghua University population: 41,065 students
Sex ratio (2013)
At birth: 1.123 male/female
Under 15: 1.17 male/female
15–24: 1.11 male/female
25-54: 1.05 male/female
55-64: 1.03 male/female
65+ : 0.92 male/female
Total: 1.06 male/female
Summary: a TON of people, no matter which way you look at it. You see it everwhere — in the airports, shopping centers, subways (especially the subways), cafeterias, etc. It’s a bit intimidating.
在北京 9,999 个玫瑰就算高富帅。在云南 9,999 个玫瑰不算什么。
In Beijing, 9,999 roses means the man is tall, handsome, rich. In Yunnan, that really doesn’t mean anything.
Welcome to the flower province! Yunnan supplies a sizeable percentage of the country’s flowers.
Girls, take note: in Beijing, 9,999 roses means the man is tall, handsome, rich. In Yunnan, that really doesn’t mean anything.
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